Toddler Tantrum

I need advice. My toddler is going through a time that must make puberty look tame, or maybe I am just hopeful this has to be the worse.

For example, this morning she threw a fit to rival all fits all because she wanted to wear her black patten leather church shoes and take her ballgame (her word for football) to daycare.

So what do you do when a toddler throws a fit? Because whatever we are doing isn’t working.

5 Comments on “Toddler Tantrum

  1. We hit that stage between 2 and 3 years. And to be honest, it still pops up now and then. It’s much better now at 4. Doesn’t happen as often and doesn’t last as long each time.

    We tried everything. Spankings, time-outs, taking away toys/privileges – nothing seemed to work. So finally, we just started to ignore her. I go on about my business and finish getting ready or even getting her ready etc… and I just pretend the melt-down isn’t happening.

    I realized this approach was working about a year ago when she actually started getting mad because I wasn’t caving in to the argument. It wasn’t so much that she wanted her way as she just wanted to pitch the fit for some reason. I guess every toddler/pre-schooler is just a drama queen!

  2. My only advise is whatever path you choose, because there is no perfect path, be consistant. If you choose, time-out, lost privileges, lost toys, the silent treatment, possitive reinforcement on the back side or hanging her by her toe-nails (I know you would not) – always follow through with your word.

    So many options will work, but none will work if she doesn’t trust you to mean it every time. It is amazing how early they learn if you are bluffing. So, if you never bluff – if you always do what you say – you will see what a quick learner she is.

    Good luck!

  3. i’m definitely no expert (hahahaha) but i found the book “happiest toddler on the block” by Karp to be quite helpful. I haven’t finished it yet but so far, the techniques are helping. Every child is different but you never know.

  4. Avery has tantrums from time to time and we usually ignore them but first I try to think if it is really a fight worth having. I haven’t learned that yet with my husband but am really trying with my toddler. I find if i ignore her that she is over it within minutes. Hope the advice helps.

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